Suffering in Silence – Abused by Indifference

This poem I have written is dedicated to all the men, women & young children who have suffered abuse at any stage of their lives, be it sexual, physical, emotional or spiritual. It’s been something that I have wanted to write about for a long time and I know of a few people who have suffered these abuses and one of them was a friend of mine.  Some things don’t have to end up in tragedy if only we spare our time to show people that LOVE does exist in this World. Emotions stemming from a broken heart shouldn’t be pacified with indifference. When you want to cry, cry… I will lend my shoulder, when you hurt, I hurt, when you are sad, I am sad. Jesus is the same in that He sees your suffering and wants to heal you of all your afflictions. God sees all, knows all and sends key people into your life to be representations of His divine Love that He has for you.


John 15:11-13 (NKJV)

11 “These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full. 12 This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. [Emphasis added].

Some feel abandoned by those they hoped would be near them in their time of need and for those that stick with you during such storms in your life, they are the ANGELS in your lives so let them embrace you as they comfort you in your Pain. You will find healing from the least of these and those that you never paid a second glance are the ones who will stick close to you more than a brother, sister, father or mother. Allow yourself to be freed by the Love of a stranger that is an Angel in disguise. Let your friends Love you, Let your family Love you, Let God LOVE you. Don’t suffer in silence…don’t enter the devils play ground….he is the one that locks you up in bondages that can’t accept

Love…do not be tricked, do not be robbed of happiness, do not be robbed of liberty, for Whom the Son sets free, is free indeed (John 8:36). Run to Jesus…His arms are wide open…run to Him and He will set you free! Run towards the gates of Freedom from anguish, hatred, regret, bitterness, pain, depression, sadness, grief, despair, hopelessness, loneliness, guilt and shame. Run towards God, run and don’t look back…be freed and receive Joy in exchange for all that sadness….Receive Love! Let the Lord carry your burden!

Psalm 55:22 (NKJV)
Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken. [Emphasis added]

1 Peter 5:7 (NKJV)
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. [Emphasis added]

I have also added a Song to brighten the message and I hope that it ministers to you before you read the poem below. 

2 Corinthians 1:2-4 (NKJV)

2Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.

Comfort in Suffering

3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. [Emphasis added].


Suffering in Silence


Her voice is choked,

Her tears are flowing,

but no one sees, that her heart is breaking.

She looks into space,

Darkness lies there…

She closes her eyes,

Darkness follows her there…

She opens them again and sees nothing’s there.

She hears nothing, feels nothing,

more and more, she feels nothing

and yet something is there,

something is there,

Her mind is screaming,

is there anybody there?

Her soul is fearing that no one is here,

Only her and it,

the darkness that lies there.

When will that moment of fear leave her chest?

When will that hand that reaches her lift her off this mess?

When will the light she longs to see through this night,

come beaming down and torture her fright?

She silently gazes into the gloom,

where the doom that awaits her…

where love has no room,

where saddness has now become her groom,

That enraged bitter wound,

no longer wants to fester, that suffered in silence

no longer wants to fight

because she is tired, tired of this pain

tired of the hatred, tired of the blame.

“Set me FREE!” she finds her song,

she finds her voice, she finds her soul.

The wondering spirit that felt abandoned there,

felt as if that’s all life had to share,

That simple place of darknesss and lonliness,

that single crusted level of phoniness,

No more silence, “NO MORE! I don’t care!”

that’s all the torture she could bear.

(c) 2011 Sherline N.T. Registered & Protected

Eliminate Self-Condemnation – End the Cycle

We all know that we all make mistakes but we have a bad habit of beating ourselves up over it. This is what we call self-condemnation.

Self-condemnation – an admission that you have failed to do or be something you know you should do or be.

It’s one thing to learn to forgive others but you will find that some people have an even more difficult time at learning to forgive themselves for their past mistakes and failures. Sometimes people land in this negative mindset not because of things that they have done but because of the negative feedback they recieve from others which reinforces this state of self-condemnation. If you are told often enough that “you’re not good enough” or are in a verbally or physically abusive relationship, you can start to believe that you deserve the ill-treatment that you receive from others and end up allowing yourself to start to practice self-abuse because of self-condemnation.

Let me tell you right now that self-condemnation is NOT your PORTION in life. You have the ability to free yourself from this self-destructive way of thinking. Some people may find that if they are trapped in an abusive situation from their peers or loved ones, they face larger obstacles from freeing their mind from self-condemnation. I find that it’s one thing to teach on the value of forgiveness but it’s harder to put it into practice when the times call for it in these types of situations. This is not to say that there is no freedom from this vicious cycle, but there are obvious factors that are present in these circumstances that become obstacles from releasing ones mind from this type of negative mentality.   

Self-condemnation is a type of noose that is tied around a persons mind. There are steps one can take to avoid getting trapped into a cycle of self-condemnation. Normally, when you know you’ve made a mistake, you should allow yourself to:

1) RECOGNIZE your mistake(s);

2) REFLECT on what you could have done differently;

3) ACCEPT your current circumstances;

4) MOVE ON after learning what to do differently for the next time you encounter the same or similar situation.

Those that practice self-condemnation never seem to get past stage 1. It’s not enough to recognize your mistakes if you aren’t planning on reflecting on how to move on beyond it. This is how people get into emotional bondages that cause them to be unable to progress in life because they haven’t learned to forgive and let go of past mistakes. I remember a time when I made some crazy mistakes and beat myself out of it that I landed into a state of DEPRESSION. If you have read my earlier post on Comfort zones, this state of behavior is closely tied to that topic as well. When you get depressed you start to feel hopeless and you digress into negative thought patterns that entertain thoughts of suicide and eventually death if you leave yourself unchecked. You will feel vulnerable and this is why it is important to have accountability partners in your life. They snap you out of this crazy state of mind. At the time I didn’t have friends that could do this for  me and I had to learn how to fight this way of thinking on my own.

Even if you are alone, you can battle it out and get out of that cycle. However, I didn’t do this by my personal might nor by power because I knew if I did, it would be a losing battle. I relied on praying to God to get my mind back on track  and meditating on His Word (Zechariah 4:6). Believe me when I say that prayer really works and meditating on what the Word of God says helps you understand that you aren’t the first person to feel this way.Remember you can do all things through Christ you strengthens us (Philippians 4:13).

Break the cycle of self-abusive behaviours that trap you into that emotional roller-coaster of self-condemnation.

Self-condemnation prevents you from reaching out for help when you need it the most.

You don’t deserve to live in regret. Everyone has regrets, but you have to get past the regret and move forward to continue pressing on towards the goal (Philippians 3:13-15). You can’t change the past so look at your present circumstances and see the things that you need to change in order to do those things and have something too look forward to in your future. Learn to have a Positive mind by confessing positive  things to yourself. Do this everyday until you break your negative thought patterns. It can be as simple as writing 3 good things about yourself each day and believing in it. Notice the operative word here is BELIEVING. If you don’t believe in the positive things you hear about yourself then you will set yourself up to remain in that emotional bondage. Break yourself out of this mental entrapment. Do this and you will overcome and break the cycle.

Self-Condemners have a defeatist mentality. They already believe that there is no way they can change. That is lie that you should stop believing RIGHT NOW! You can overcome feeling defeated by changing how you see your failure.

Allow yourself to be free from self-condemnation. You have to surround yourself with positive-minded people. Meditate on things that give you that strength to look beyond your mistakes and failures. I keep repeating this in a lot of my posts but seriously “you become what you think” (Proverbs 23:7).

Exercise your FREEDOM! You don’t have to condemn yourself anymore. You can learn from your mistakes and free yourself from self-abusive meditation. Regrets shouldn’t shackle you down from pursuing your dreams and meaningful relationships. Understand that only you can change the way you think at the end of the day. People may be there in your life to guide you out of that negative pattern but essentially, it all boils down to you deciding to change your thought patterns. You can do this, it is achievable, it is possible, and is in your hands to break the shackles of your mind from believing that there is no way out. Change your belief patterns and think of positive things that will boost your self-esteem. You can change the way you think and start renewing your mind to think of things that edify your image as a person (Romans 12:2; Ephesians 4:23). Reject negative reports of others and don’t allow others to keep you feeling condemned for your actions forever.

Recognize your failures and decide to be free from this negative cycle and learn to FORGIVE YOURSELF. Registered & Protected