Faithful Everyday – I Will Wait

Hello Peeps!

I just have two amazing songs to bless your spirit today. The first song is by David Dunn called Grace Will Lead Me Home. 

Image result for Hagar and sarahThe last song I also have for you is by Lincoln Brewster  called While I Wait. I feel that the last song really ministered to me because how many of you can’t stand waiting for something that is promised to you to come? Whether it be a promotion, a job, a spouse, or hoping to have children or birth a business, etc etc…. God knows what the desires we have in our hearts are before we even ask Him, but that doesn’t mean as people, we may not be impatient to receiving these promises and take things into our own hands. Remember in the Book of Genesis when Moses and Sarah where waiting to birth Isaac, the child of promise, but then Sarah got impatient and felt like God had forgotten her and had suggested that her husband (Moses) lie with her servant Hagar to birth him a son to continue Moses’ genealogy? The idea seemed to make human sense to Sarah, but God new that there would be implications to such a suggestion unbeknown-st to Sarah. Unfortunately, Sarah was desperate and discouraged that she didn’t think this suggestion would affect her marriage in any way… Unfortunately, as you read on…you will see how much strife brewed after agreeing to do things Sarah’s way rather than waiting on God’s way to fulfill a promise.

Sarah’s servant Hagar did inevitably birth a son to Moses and named him Ishmael Genesis 16 , however, Sarah’s impatience and inability to trust God caused her to make this life changing mistake. Because Hagar was able to produce a son for Moses, Hagar used Sarah’s insecurities as a woman to taunt Sarah and make fun of her for her presumed infertility. Hagar simply assumed that Sarah would never be able to give birth to a child for Moses despite being his wife considering that Sarah was beyond child-bearing years to do so. HOWEVER, but God PEOPLE! BUT GOD!!!!! 

Genesis 21:1-7 

Isaac Is Born

21 And the Lord visited Sarah as He had said, and the Lord did for Sarah as He had spoken. For Sarah conceived and bore Abraham a son in his old age, at the set time of which God had spoken to him. And Abraham called the name of his son who was born to him—whom Sarah bore to him—Isaac.[a] Then Abraham circumcised his son Isaac when he was eight days old, as God had commanded him. Now Abraham was one hundred years old when his son Isaac was born to himAnd Sarah said, “God has [b]made me laugh, and all who hear will laugh with me.” She also said, “Who would have said to Abraham that Sarah would nurse children? For I have borne him a son in his old age.”

God showed Hagar and Sarah that He is a God that is able to pull what seemed to be impossible and make it possible to those that BELIEVE. Sarah did give birth to Isaac as promised and this caused strife and enmity between her and Hagar. As a result of this strife, Hagar was then told by Moses to leave them as a result. In thinking about the end result of Sarah’s impatience and unbelief, what can you learn about this based on her situation? In reference to Hagar who taunted Sarah mercilessly, there’s this saying that goes, He who laughs first, laughs last. Just because people around you don’t see where it is that you are going, and poke fun at you based on how they see right now, doesn’t mean that what they say trumps what God will actually do for you if you put your complete TRUST IN THE LORD.

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But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.

Jesus said to him, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.

But Jesus looked at them and said, “With men it is impossible, but not with God; for with God all things are possible.

And He said, “Abba, Father, all things are possible for You. Take this cup away from Me; nevertheless, not what I will, but what You will.

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Image result for Worship GodAlthough I used the birth of a child as an example, it is applicable to you in different aspects of your life. Like I said, it could apply to those who are waiting to birth a business idea, a child, or waiting for the right relationships to enter into your life to take you to where you ought to go in your destiny.

My message to you is that God hasn’t forgotten you even if you feel like you’ve been abandoned, forsaken, and waiting for a long time for a breakthrough. God is with you every step you take in your journey. While you wait, Trust in God and Worship Him as the song by Lincoln Brewster emphasizes. God is Faithful everyday, so just know that every promise God has for you, He is the One Who is sure to bring everything that He has for you to completion. So in the mean time, what do you do while waiting? The answer is simple….continue to Worship Him (GOD) Everyday. Worship God in Spirit and in Truth and God will definitely answer you in His Divine Timing. The question is, are you willing to Worship God while waiting? Think about that today as you listen to this song. God Bless You Everybody! 

God’s View of Marriage and Divorce – The Biblical Standard

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Image result for DivorceWell, today I woke up with this topic in my spirit. Whenever the Lord presses me to write on a sensitive issue, I always feel the I need to pray about it before I pursue it, so here is what I believe is God’s view point regarding the issue of DIVORCE. I will first give the Biblical view point on the topic and then I’ll add my 2 cents on it at the end.

Before I even go into depth regarding God’s view on the topic of DIVORCE, I must first define what a Marriage is by Biblical standards. Marriage in The Bible is defined as one union between 1 Man and 1 Woman (PERIOD). Anything outside this definition and context is contrary to the Biblical definition of marriage. Therefore, things like “same-sex marriages” or “polyamorous marriages” etc, do not fit in the Biblical context or definition of a Godly marriage. If you look at 1 Corinthians 7:1- 7The Bible confirms this definition, if you read the following that I’ve bold-ed:

1 Corinthians 7 

Principles of Marriage

Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:

It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that.

The Bible also highlights SPECIFICALLY that the unmarried and those who are widows (married individuals who have lost their spouse through death), are categorically those that are allowed to marry if they choose to do so; and if these individuals (categorically speaking) lack self-control with respect to their sexual desires. It is better for such people, categorically speaking, to marry rather than commit adultery or fornicate (have sex outside of marriage) as a consequence of their lack of self-control as is stated in the following verses of scripture:

1 Corinthians 7: 8-9

But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Those that have had sex outside the context of a marriage have sinned by God’s standard, and must confess and repent of their actions if they are truly contrite and aware that they have fallen short in this area of their lives. Some people may have had sexual experiences in their lives without knowing God’s standards regarding sexual purity and marriage, especially for those who weren’t Christian in the first place (unbelievers). However, once a person is aware and knows that engaging in such activities is sinful by God’s standards, they must choose not to engage any further in this area of sin after that. Those that continue in the knowledge of it are guilty of sinning in this area of their lives by their own volition and choice.

What about Rape, Molestation, or Exploited victims? 

In my opinion, those that have had sexual experiences against their will are not guilty of having had such experiences that compromised their purity by God’s standards. However, those that have committed such atrocities against another person or person(s), are guilty and have sinned greatly by God’s standards, and such individuals do end up reaping whatever thing they have sowed. I know that in the old testament times, raped victims ended up marrying their rapists under the Mosaic laws during those times. This was done as a means of restoring the raped victims honor (in a patriarchal Hebraic society), since the victim was considered no longer a virgin, and therefore, no man would have wanted to marry her. This law was instituted to restore a raped victims honor for her to be eligible to get married, and therefore, she would subsequently marry her rapist. I don’t know about you, but I think a victimized woman would rather remain single than marry her rapist… but I don’t know… that’s just me.

The Bible is also emphatic about husbands and wives keeping their marriage vows regardless of whether their partner is a Believer or not. If one partner is a Believer of Christ – A Christian, then the other spouse is also sanctified by their believing spouse in their marriage, and their children also become holy. However, if the unbelieving spouse chooses to leave the marriage, The Bible states in 1 Corinthians 7:15 that they should let them depart because how can they know whether or not they can save their unbelieving spouse? Only God can save an unbelieving spouse.

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10 Now to the married I commandyet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.

12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

In 1 Corinthians 7: 25-28, The Bible states that for those who are unmarried and virgins, that it is alright to remain as you are since you aren’t bound to anyone. However, just because your single doesn’t necessarily mean you live life without some sense of self-restraint and self-control. This doesn’t give a single person the license to act crazy and live life recklessly and irresponsibly. However, if a single person or widow marries, they have not sinned according to God’s standards.

To the Unmarried and Widows

25 Now concerning virgins: I have no commandment from the Lord; yet I give judgment as one whom the Lord in His mercy has made trustworthy. 26 I suppose therefore that this is good because of the present distress—that it is good for a man to remain as he is: 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.

In 1 Corinthians 7:32-40The Bible makes a distinction regarding the differences between a married person versus an unmarried person.

For those that are unmarried, they are identified as those who: 

  1. care for the things of the Lord and how they may please Him (verse 32)
  2. care about being holy both in body and in spirit.
  3. when not given in marriage, they are those that do better (verse 38).

In contrast, for those that are married, they are identified as those who:

  1. care about the things of the world (verse 33)
  2. care about how they may please their spouse.
  3. when given in marriage, they are those that do well (verse 38).

32 But I want you to be without [b]care. He who is unmarried [c]cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. 33 But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. 34 There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. 35 And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction.

36 But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his [d]virgin, if she is past the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry. 37 Nevertheless he who stands steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but has power over his own will, and has so determined in his heart that he will keep his [e]virgin, does well. 38 So then he who gives [f]her in marriage does well, but he who does not give her in marriage does better.

In the last 2 verses of the same chapter, The Bible clearly states that the wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives, but if he dies, she is at liberty to marry whomever she chooses in the Lord. Therefore, there is no room for an adulterous affair to take place, nor does a marriage permit having various other partners in the context of a Godly union.

39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she remains as she is, according to my judgment—and I think I also have the Spirit of God.

What about the Issue of Divorce? What is God’s take on the topic?

In order to talk about Divorce, we must look at Jesus’ perspective on the matter when the Pharisees tested Him on this same subject by looking at the following verses of scripture found in:

Matthew 19:1-10 (NKJV)

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19 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan. And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there.

The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?”

And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who[a]made them at the beginning made them male and female,’ and said,‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.

They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?”

He said to them, Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for [b]sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.

10 His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”

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It is clear that Jesus clarifies the parameters that allow for a Divorce of a marital union to take place in the book of Matthew 19:1-10 (NKJV). According to Jesus:

  1. Divorce was introduced in The Bible during the days of Moses where a certificate of divorce was issued to put away a man’s wife (verses 7-8). However, Jesus also stated that from the beginning, that wasn’t part of God’s plan. This was a man-made law created for a sinful generation that didn’t value the sanctity of marriage.
  2. Jesus, Himself, states that a divorce is only permitted if there is evidence of adultery, where one spouse has practiced sexual immorality and then chooses to marry another person.
  3. Jesus also makes it clear in verse 9 that whoever marries a divorced person has committed adultery.

I find it interesting that Jesus makes it clear in Matthew 19:4-6 that the Lord made us Male and Female and for this reason, a (male) man will leave his parents house and be joined together with his (female) wife and the two will become one flesh. No where does Jesus define this concept of marriage as homosexual, bisexual, or polymorous in nature, etc etc. It’s strictly between 1 man and 1 woman by God’s definition, so people really have no room to get this twisted.

So what about those that were once divorced and have married someone else?

The truth is, Biblically speaking, those that marry someone else after divorcing their first spouse have committed adultery by God’s standard.

Does that mean that they should divorce their new spouse to make things right? Divorcing twice over doesn’t make much of a difference, because adultery has already taken place and adultery is sin. Sin, is sin is sin is sin. There’s no two ways about this. All I can say is that for anyone that has committed adultery in someway, Go before God and seek repentance for making such a decision and life changing mistake. If you truly fear God, your spirit will be convicted of this Truth. Once a person is divorced, they are not permitted to marry someone else as is stipulated in The Bible, because that will be deemed as an act of ADULTERY; but we live in a sinful generation that so many people choose to ignore this and go about their business doing whatever it is that they like. I know that with the whole thing about Israel Houghton marrying his new wife Adrienne Bailon after divorcing his first wife, Meleasa Houghton, many have been quick to judge him on his choice to marry someone else with a condemning attitude… but I believe Jesus would look at his accusers and ask them this question in John 8:7:

John 8:1-12 (NKJV)

Jesus the Light of the World

But Jesus went to the Mount of Olives.

Now [a]early in the morning He came again into the temple, and all the people came to Him; and He sat down and taught them. Then the scribes and Pharisees brought to Him a woman caught in adultery. And when they had set her in the midst, they said to Him, “Teacher, [b]this woman was caught in adultery, in the very act. Now [c]Moses, in the law, commanded us [d]that such should be stoned. But what do You [e]say?” This they said, testing Him, that they might have something of which to accuse Him. But Jesus stooped down and wrote on the ground with His finger, [f]as though He did not hear.

So when they continued asking Him, He [g]raised Himself up and said to them, “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.” And again He stooped down and wrote on the ground. Then those who heard it, being[h] convicted by their conscience, went out one by one, beginning with the oldest even to the last. And Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst. 10 When Jesus had raised Himself up [i]and saw no one but the woman, He said to her, “Woman, where are those accusers [j]of yours? Has no one condemned you?”

11 She said, “No one, Lord.”

And Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go [k]and sin no more.”

12 Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, “I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.”

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As you can see, the scribes and Pharisees were quick to judge a person by their self-righteous standards; however, when it comes to God, we must always remember that the judgment we place on another person will be weighed against ourselves by God’s standards.

Matthew 7:2-4 (NKJV)

For with what [a]judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye?

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Image Source: Israel and former wife Meleasa

Does that mean that Israel Houghton didn’t commit adultery? No… because according to The Bible, he has committed adultery in marrying his 2nd wife Adrienne Bailon while divorcing his 1st wife Meleasa Houghton. However, I am of the opinion that he himself needs to be convicted of that truth. It’s simple to point the finger at him as outside observers expecting a higher standard of behaviour from him simply because he is a worship minister… but sometimes I feel that certain Christians … no matter what platform, position or title they carry within the church, if they are not taught what the Fear of the Lord is, they will be prone to making such mistakes. It is easier to expect a higher standard of such people; however, anyone is capable of making this mistake as with other mistakes, so we shouldn’t put such people on a high pedestal expecting them to be perfect when they are simply just human. At the end of the day, Israel Houghton and Adrienne Baillon both have to feel convicted that they have committed adultery by the Biblical definition of it, and be repentant of it themselves; between themselves and God. Anyone can be in denial regarding their actions in any area of their lives; however, if you are not convicted by Biblical standards of truth… then people leave room to sear their conscience bit-by-bit if they lack spiritual conviction that causes one to seek repentance from the Lord for their short-comings. There is no room to re-interpret what Jesus’ considers as adultery when it’s written plainly in The Bible for anyone to understand. Again I say, Sin is sin is sin is sin. There’s no two ways about it…

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Image Source: Israel Hougton marries Adrienne Bailon

Although the deed is done, that doesn’t mean that our God is not quick to forgive when one comes before Him contrite in spirit while acknowledging their sin and short-comings. However, just because God forgives, doesn’t mean that people don’t end up reaping whatever they have sown. Sin always has a list of  consequences that follow, so it is important to learn to reverentially Fear the Lord in all that you do. It’s so easy to point fingers at other people who have fallen short and make a tabloid out of their mess. However, we must remember that the way in which we treat others, will be the same measure used to judge what we will receive in return. You get what you dish out. If you dish out judgments and criticisms towards other peoples flaws, you’ll receive the same level of treatment and judgment in return. Do not be the one that casts the first stone. As Christians, it is important to remember to remain humble and forgive others when they make mistakes. Don’t be quick to judge others so harshly without understanding their circumstances.

When judging another, we must remember that the measure you give is what you will receive in return. Let me make it clear in that although God is just to forgive us, this doesn’t give us a license to continue sinning in any area of our lives. We have to fear God in such a reverential type of way that we don’t end up searing our consciences just to go by what is politically correct in order to feed our fleshy desires rather than what is Biblically correct. Divorce is not of God since He hates divorce; however, God is just to forgive those who have gone through with this in their lives.

When correcting your brother or sister regarding a moral flaw, do so with love and righteousness rather than with condemnation, while at the same time, not watering down the truth so that they can sleep well at night. Correct and rebuke in such a way that it brings about inner-conviction to go back to God and seek forgiveness for their moral flaws, and to turn away from straying into the wrong path that doesn’t lead them in the right direction. This is how we teach others to REVERENTIALLY Fear the Lord. We must remember, not to be condemning when correcting our brother or sister. We should always correct in a truthful but loving manner so as to bring about inner conviction that leads a person to correct their actions that causes them to turn away from sin and repent of their behaviour. As Christians, we cannot afford to water-down the truth so that others can simply “sleep well at night”. We are our brother’s keeper so let us pray for each other when struggling with sin in certain areas of our lives rather than pointing the finger. I believe that this message was for someone needing to read this today. I pray that this post blesses you today. God Bless You Everybody! 😀

A Lesson for the Husbands with Wives

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I have one more inspirational short clip about the role of Husbands and Wives that my parents shared with me via WhatsApp. In various societies, Men and Women are treated differently according to cultural and societal norms; however, Biblically speaking, the norm that should exist in any marital relationship should follow this verse of scripture:

Image result for marriage facebook bannerEphesians 5:22-33

Marriage—Christ and the Church

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body,[d]of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”[e] 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

As you watch this video, for those that are married, or are about to be married, or if you’re still single just like me… I believe that you can learn a lot about how to treat your partners and/or future spouse in a Christ-like fashion. We should treat others in the way we ourselves would like to be treated. There should be no competition or difference in treatment when God created us to be equal in standing and complimentary to each other. I pray that this video blesses your spirit today. God Bless You Everybody! 😀

I Go Crazy for You

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I’m sure the title of this post must have got you thinkin’ what is making Sherline Go Crazy huh!!!!? lol 😀 … well, let me calm you down right there and let you know that I have all my faculties together so not to worry. I’m just posting this upbeat song by GI (God’s Image) called Go Crazy. It’s not a new song but I just love it and wanted to share it here with you today. When I think of what the Lord has done for me for the past couple of years with the sickness I endured and the long journey to recovery, I think I can say that I just go crazy with Joy for what the Lord has done in my life. I feel positive about what lies ahead for me in my future. The Lord never leaves us forsaken. 

Image result for dead end relationshipI’ve come to terms with those that walk out of my life and am willing to embrace those that want to be a part of my life. I have chosen not to cling onto people that won’t cling onto me and just let them go. There’s no need for dead weight that won’t take you anywhere. It’s better to be freed of dead weight and align yourself with people that honestly make an effort to be in your life and want to have something to do with you. Life isn’t about pleasing people that are around you, it’s about doing what is pleasing before God and allowing God to show you who you really should be aligned with and connected to even when it hurts as He strikes off some peeps out of your life that add no spiritual, emotional, or intellectual value to your destiny.

Related imageI think many struggle to let go of “dead-end” relationships, but at the end of the day, we must acknowledge the fact that weeds choke the potential of a plant or tree to grow, so you must uproot the weedy people out of your lives if you want to grow and thrive in the long run. This also applies to those in ministry and also to your places of employment where you find no room to grow in your careers, or where you find that there are no opportunities for advancement because certain people are either blocking you from reaching your goals, or there is no room to advance in the place that you find yourself in.

Ask yourself, how long will you stick it out? Will you wait until you get totally frustrated? Or will you allow God to shift you and reposition you into a different role, company, occupation, ministry, etc? What will it take for you to move with the seasons of change that God has in your life that is intended for you to shift from where you are to where He wants you to go and be, hmmmmmm…..?

Image result for dead end relationshipAre you willing to allow God to shift you from where you are to where He wants you to be? Ask yourself all these questions today. Don’t allow weedy people to short change your destiny. Don’t give people that much power over your life that you can’t breathe freely in the end. God didn’t sign you up to be caged with the wrong people that are thwarting your potential to succeed. You have to recognize when where you are simply isn’t good enough for you, and when God wants to take you out of that dead-end pit and into a better place that will help you thrive. The question is, do you trust God to direct your path? If you do… then move when God tells you to move, Amen! 

The last song is I have here is also by GI (God’s Image) called Pray and Don’t Worry. I think that this song is awesome and it really is uplifting to any weary soul that needs a song to encourage them especially when you’re feeling at your lowest. Don’t put your trust in the wrong places. Don’t put your trust in people that are susceptible to disappointing you and are not perfect to begin with. Put your total trust in God who is able to do exceedingly, abundantly, above all you could ask or think of, Amen! Put your trust in the right place is my main message. Learn to pray to God and make your requests known to God so that He is able to answer to your need in His perfect timing, Amen! Thank God for every victory and remember all blessings you have in your life come from God. 

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;

Proverbs 3:5-6 [Full Chapter]

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.

Ephesians 3:20-21 [Full Chapter]

Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.

The Waiting Game…

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                Scattered applause                                       “I just looove waiting Sherline”….           *hint of sarcasm*

Today, I want to talk about waiting for the best things that God has for your life. I can testify that waiting is not easy… and I mean not easy at all! Sometimes we can look at others around us moving ahead and wonder why is nothing happening on our side of the fence? Well, what I have learned in my own personal journey is that whatever God has planned for you, must come at the “right time”. The question is… “when is that timing, Huh!?” lol. Well, I have never really liked that saying that people use to encourage others who are impatient about waiting for what they truly desire to happen in their lives soon when they say “All Good things come to those that wait”… But how long must a person wait until they receive that “Good thing” huh?

Honestly, it’s hard to pinpoint when to receive whatever God has promised you at the right timing, because God is the only One Who knows when things should happen at the right time in your life. Even though waiting isn’t easy, it produces specific Fruits of the Spirit that need to be nurtured overtime in your life so that you can operate at a high level of spiritual and emotional maturity.

What are the Fruits of the Spirit?

Galatians 5:22-23 [Full Chapter]

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.

These nine traits are what produce the Fruit of the Spirit. When you are waiting on God to answer a specific prayer or need that you have in your life, you will have to learn what it means to operate in the realm of love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

FlowerI have noticed that people don’t mind the positive fruits of the Spirit which are love, joy, peace, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and gentleness… However, when it comes to the Fruits of longsuffering and self-control, I’m sure some people struggle with these areas of the Fruit of the Spirit. I believe that God included these two Fruits on purpose because He may have known that people may not have too much of a problem to display the other Fruits of the Spirit as much as these two; but the truth is, I highly doubt that anybody could function in the other Fruits of the Spirit properly without these two specific Fruits of the Spirit called longsuffering and self-control.

  • How can one be able to love an obnoxious person or people without longsuffering and self-control?
  • How can one be able to function peacefully with others who deliberately try to cause strife in your life and/or in your families lives, or in the lives of people you care about and you continuing to “love” them without longsuffering and self-control?
  • How can one be able to operate with joy, kindness, goodness, faithfulness and gentleness with people that try to antagonize you, rock the boat in your life with strife and ruffle your feathers with negative things that they spout off against you and do in your life without longsuffering and self-control?

The list of examples just goes on and on…

I think that it’s pretty obvious that the Holy Spirit enables us to function with the ability to handle longsuffering with self-control if we learn to embrace ALL the Fruits of the Spirit. We simply can’t operate with one Fruit of the Spirit without functioning with the others. I don’t see how it’s possible to love someone without the other Fruits of the Spirit. I can’t see how someone could have joy in their lives and not operate with kindness, goodness and gentleness. That is simply impossible, because all of these Fruits work together hand-in-hand.

Again I say, you cannot operate in one Fruit of the Spirit without the others.

Image result for jesus completes meYou can’t claim to “love” someone and then treat them with cruelty, spite and a lack of self-control. It is clear to me that in order to function in One Fruit of the Spirit, you’d have to operate on ALL of the other Fruits of the Spirit because they function as all-in-one and one-in-all. You cannot “pick-‘n’-choose” which Fruit you will choose to operate in without functioning in another. They all work together hand-in-hand, and that is why Jesus epitomizes all of these Fruits as part of His identity because when He poured out His Spirit on all flesh, it was so that we could function in all these Fruits of the Spirit as a sign that we are in Christ Jesus.

God’s Spirit Poured Out ] “And it shall come to pass afterward That I will pour out My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your old men shall dream dreams, Your young men shall see visions.

‘And it shall come to pass in the last days, says God, That I will pour out of My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your young men shall see visions, Your old men shall dream dreams.

Image result for jesus completes meSo going back to the topic of waiting”, I mentioned the Fruits of the Spirit intentionally, because your attitude while waiting on the promises of God for your life allows you to function in the Fruits of the Spirit. It is unfortunate that we live in a world where things seem to be produced automatically in such a fast-paced environment where we even have tap-features on debit/credit cards for instant payments; we have fast-food restaurants with drive-thru options; we also have mobile apps that give you instant access to news feeds, social media notifications, etc etc. We currently live in a world that doesn’t really require us to produce such Fruits of the Spirit because we have moved into a realm of instant gratification where we are able to obtain things by instant access made easily by a simple click of a button, etc. Well, at least in North America, this is certainly the case.

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Everything has become so easily accessible to us that we no longer need nor require “Faith” in order to purchase a burger because there’s an “App” for that, lol 😀 . But when it comes to specific answers and prayer requests from God, people become frustrated that there is no “App” for God to simply answer your prayers at the simple click of a button using an instant “tap feature” style to suit your needs and your own agenda(s).

Image result for waiting on GodIf anything, God requires us to tap into the Fruits of the Spirit in order to obtain answers directly from Him. When God answers to your need, He wants to bless you in the fullness of time and not at the time you wish to allocate Him to get what you want from Him selfishly at the time that YOU want it. If you’ve been waiting for certain breakthroughs to happen in your life, there is no “App” feature for “prayer” and “fasting”. These are things that we need to learn to do on our own pro-actively in order to produce such Fruits of the Spirit to function in our lives. God knows what you have need of before you even ask Him so learn to be patient and learn to understand that God is never late because He’s always on time. His time may not be our preferred timing, but it doesn’t change the fact that He’s always an “On-time” kind of God.

Remember this African proverb when you feel frustrated towards God for not having answered your prayers in the way that you would have wanted Him to: “A blessing delayed is not a blessing denied”. 

Seek God to help you increase in the Fruits of the Holy Spirit and to show you what fruits you lack in order to operate at a realm where you can walk in the Faith of God knowing that whatever He has promised to give you, God is never late; and for whatever He has for you, it will surly come on time, Amen! I have posted a song by for King & Country called Matter. I pray that this post and song blesses you today. God Bless You Everybody! 😀

The Issue of Cheating…

Hello Peeps!

I don’t know why I’m writing about this today. I guess it’s because I met up with a friend of mine called “H” (that’s the acronym in place of her real name that I won’t share on this blog) at the opening night of The Avengers movie screening. And let me tell you …. that that movie was AWESOME!!!! 😀 Y’all should check it out when you get the chance. 😀 But, I digress…

You see, I haven’t seen this particular friend of mine in such a long loooooong time, even before I got sick a year ago, and she was accompanied by her boyfriend to whom she introduced to me and I think that the guy is a nice guy for her. I had to give her kudos to this guy that she introduced me to, because my friend “H” has had this tendency to date some weirdos before, who seemed to be quite possessive in nature…which can’t be healthy in any relationship, but I got a good vibe about the one she introduced to me that night. Her boyfriend had a gentle demeanor about him and while he was with my friend at the movies, he was also taking care of his grandmother that had also accompanied them to the movies. That’s Man material right there lol 😀 !

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Anyways, my friend “H” had given me and my twin sister updates on a mutual friend of ours whom I’ll call “Z” that I hadn’t heard from in such a long time, and she told me that “Z” had broken up with her boyfriend that I remember being introduced to a couple of years ago before I got sick. When I met “Z”‘s boyfriend at a party that my friend “Z” was holding at her house, I thought that he was such an awesome guy! He was so polite, funny, outgoing and respectful and I could tell that he really loved my friend “Z”. The problem with my friend “Z” was that she had two sides to her that I knew about. In front of other people, she displays a character of a “good-natured” girl that doesn’t get into trouble; but the thing is, she’s really wild and has a problem with flirting with many guys… In fact, she portrayed this “good-girl” image for a while until one day she confessed to me that she’d slept around and had a problem with remaining faithful. I think she wanted to know what my reaction would be to that since she knew I was a “Christian” gal. I wasn’t really surprised by what she had told me because I could already discern all of that. And even though she was like this, I cast no judgment against her. I just felt that she was needy of male attention for the wrong reasons. I think me and my friend “H” entered our friend “Z”‘s life at a time where this girl needed some sense of stability in her life and not hang out with crazy and wild people that had no boundaries.

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My friend “Z” and “A” were great together!

“Z’s” boyfriend, to whom I’ll call “A”, was so polite and had encouraged his girlfriend (my friend) “Z” to invite “H”, my twin sister and I to attend a barbecue at his house as he introduced “Z”  and her “friends” (which was us) to his family. My friend “Z’s” intention of inviting us to this Barbecue was to portray that she had a “good-girl with good-friends” image in front of his family. I know full well, that “H”, my twin sister and I were not her only friends… In fact, we were not even the closest friends to her in my honest opinion. I know that “Z” had other friends, but they were wild and I mean WILD… However, she wasn’t going to have them come to this party because she knows full well that such friends would ruin her “good-girl” image in front of her boyfriend’s family. My friend “H” and I thought that “Z” shouldn’t pretend in front of her boyfriend’s family… However, she wanted to survive the night away and just get it over and done with… This whole thing made me question the motivations of my friend “Z” because I knew she couldn’t pretend like this for long. The party ended well, and her boyfriend “A’s” family seemed to respond positively to my friend “Z” after bringing us along to the party because the family believed that the quality of the girlfriend needed to be measured by who she hung out with. Although “Z” is my friend, she used me, my twin sister and my friend “H” for the wrong purpose of sucking up to her boyfriend “A’s” family. She was not being real with herself here…. *UGH!!!!*

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My friend’s boyfriend was so upset with the betrayal

Long story short… So when I met up with my friend “H” at the movies a few weeks ago, she updated me and told me that our friend “Z” had broken up with her boyfriend “A” because she cheated on him with some other guy. My friend “H” also lost touch with our friend “Z” after that incident since she stopped communicating with all of us put together.

I remember distinctly telling and warning my friend “Z” to not mess up the relationship she had with “A” because I could tell that he really loved her by the way he entertained us as her friends and the way he was so proud to show off his girlfriend to his friends and family meant that he was dead serious about this relationship. The guy was a great guy and I think that if my friend “Z” had remained faithful to him, she would have had a meaningful and lasting relationship. Again UGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! I don’t like to say that “nice guys finish last”… like a cliché, but ughhhhhh… in this case… my friend “Z” made that saying become her truth. I was disappointed by the news. I hate seeing the future at times…but I kinda saw this coming knowing how my friend had cheating tendencies and (soul-tie issues) that she had failed to address earlier on as she would confess out of her mouth with the weird stuff she would say… UGHHHHH!!!!!!!!

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Please make the right choices people!

Sometimes, when you look at other people’s relationships, you can envy them for simply obtaining the thing you desire for yourself…but I particularly find it aggravating when someone is blessed with something (like a real love relationship) that you wish you could have in your life and then they simply destroy it by the poor choices that they make. Some of us have to wait a long long time to obtain the very same thing that one already has at the tip of their fingers, and therefore, I simply can’t understand why some people would do this to themselves. I don’t want to be a harsh judge of character; however, I do feel sad for both my friend “Z”  for the poor choices that she made and also for her boyfriend “A” who remained faithful throughout the entire relationship and now suffers from a broken heart. The ending was just tragic at best.


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This example of a failed love relationship can be likened to how we all relate to God in our personal lives. God forever remains faithful towards us even when we are unfaithful to Him time and time again with our own actions. And yet, we as human-beings can remain fickle-minded and gravitate towards things that can break our relationship with Jesus so easily if we simply yield to our temptations. Our temptations become so paramount to satisfying our temporal needs, our tight-fisted egos and also to our seemingly insatiable desires, that we end up setting aside the sacrifice that God gave His only begotten Son, Jesus, to save us from the pits of death because of our sinful nature as an act of TRUE LOVE as we scour away in our various lusts and temptations.

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.

I don’t think that my friend “Z” knew what she had with “A” until he was gone. As people, we should not take who we have in our lives for granted. If God blesses you with meaningful relationships, then don’t take such relationships for granted. Don’t be pretentious with respect to your intentions when you relate with people. Be the genuine article at all times, because the respect you give is the respect you’ll get in return. My friend “Z” failed to respect her boyfriend’s heart and therefore lost out on a true life-long lasting love relationship she could have had with him. I could tell that he really cared about her enough to entertain whoever she cherished in her life as friends since he entertained us at his home party simply because we were “Z’s” Friends.

The ending is rather sad, but what I learned from all this is that when you choose to love someone:

  • I love You Yam

    Be Genuine in your love to another person

    Be genuine in all your endeavors, especially when you intend to pour out your all to such a person (your potential “significant other”/spouse).

  • Be discerning and do not be blinded by the mere “emotion” of love and yet fail to see the true character and spirit of the person you seek to yoke yourself with.
  • Be prayerful about every relationship you have in your life.
  • Be cognizant and aware of your own personal weaknesses and strengths.
  • Be real with yourself and Do Not lie to yourself and to others.
  • Confront your true self and learn to be vulnerable enough to show your true colours in front of the person you love.
  • Pray to God to break any unhealthy soul-ties (from past relationships both sexual or non-sexual) that can cause your current relationship to suffer.
  • Pray to God and seek to be forgiven of any moral flaws that you find in your character.
  • Pray to God to renew your mind, your body, your spirit and your soul to be crafted in the likeness of Jesus Christ.
  • Learn to forgive yourself when you make mistakes in a relationship.
  • Ask God to help you love your “significant other” as you learn to love yourself.
  • Ask God to guide you to the right person who is attached to the destiny of your life.

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In everything you do, simply pray to God for the answers. Do not underestimate the power of Prayer. I think that whether you’re in a relationship or not, it is always important to develop that personal intimacy with God on your own before you decide to yoke yourself to another person to join hands with you in your life’s destiny. People may come and go in your life, but what should always remain is your close-knit relationship with God on a personal basis.

don't cry eveHaving traveled and moved from place to place and from country to country since the age of 5, I’ve learned to say goodbye to my friends so many times that in some ways I’ve become used to the lack of permanence with respect to any relationship. The first time I had to leave a country to go somewhere else and leave my friends was when I was at the age 5. That whole experience of having to leave my friends and moving on to go to another country was so painful that I cried soo much with a broken heart as I left. I think that after the first time that I had to leave a country to move and go somewhere else, I subconsciously made a vow within myself to not hold people too dearly to my heart anymore because I felt that the pain of leaving them would hurt when I had to move on. I’m not saying that this was a good thing I did, it’s just that I felt every relationship I’d have would be temporary with no sense of permanence since I’d leave the country again at some point due to the nature of my grandparents diplomatic status… Because of that experience, I’m starting to realize why it is that I marvel at other people’s long-term relationships lasting, when in my life, the (friend) relationships I’ve ever had, wouldn’t last more than 3-4 years since I’d be moving from one country to another, due to the nature of my diplomatic parentage.

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I think that the moment I settled in Canada at the age of 16, was when I realized that my way of thinking about relationships was wrong, because now I have lived in a country for more than 4 years and could now see that long-lasting relationships are possible. I had to break that inner vow that I had made within myself as a kid with respect to no longer holding onto any relationship to be dear to me since I at that time couldn’t see any sense of permanence when relating to others. Hopefully, as I continue to grow in my faith with God, I’ll learn not to be too cynical about long-lasting relationships being possible, and hopefully, God can heal that part of me that still remains guarded in forming close-knit relationships with others in the first place since I’ve been betrayed and abandoned before and have lost the confidence of recognizing any real permanence in friend relationships since people can be so fickle. I hope I’m not too cynical in what I’ve just said. May God help me with this one. I believe that God is still dealing with me on this issue and so I’ll continue to work on it. Has anybody ever felt this way? If you have, holla in the comments down below and let me know how you’ve dealt with this.

To close off this post, I have a song to encourage you by Matt Redman Feat. Tasha Cobbs called Gracefully Broken. I pray that this song blesses your spirit today. God Bless You Everybody! 😀

Still Single and Waiting…

Hello Peeps!

Well, today’s post is inspired by Brandon’s posts regarding the topic of singleness. You can read some of his posts regarding the topic of being single by clicking on the following links: Part 1Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 and Part 5 .

Image result for Single peoplePersonally, I think it’s a struggle to remain single in this sex-saturated and perverse world. Christian singles are bombarded with various types of temptations that can lead you to move against your better judgment and probably settle for less than God’s best for your life. I’m in my 30’s and have never dated … *shocking* I know. Despite never having dated, I’m not really sad nor discouraged about it because I really want to wait for the right person to enter into my life at God’s perfect timing. It’s not that I didn’t have guys that were interested in me, because I have had some guys that were interested in me but when I lived with my Grandparents, dating was a no go in my life. So even if a guy pursued me, I wouldn’t have been allowed to date them anyway since my grandparents were not having it. Once I moved to live with my mom in Canada, I thought “finally, I can probably find someone here and date somebody at last, Whoohooo!”, but somehow, ironically, I was so focused on my education and career that I didn’t really allow myself to find any interest in dating someone while I was at school. I feel like my grandparents focus on my education was so heavily ingrained in me that I literally sought no need to be distracted by having a relationship with someone at the time. That didn’t mean that I didn’t have any guy-friends when I went to school, it’s just that I didn’t have a “boyfriend” nor did I “date” anybody. If I could turn back the hands of time, would I change anything? I highly doubt I would because I am of the view that God is in control. We sometimes like to take that control and direct ourselves into places or relationships that have no God-centered focus, and end up in situations that could have been avoided had we learned to be patient and passed the test of endurance. Haste makes Waste, but patience always produces great results. It’s all in how you look at things.

SingleI personally want to be with someone who can try to learn to understand me and love me for who I am. I certainly am not perfect as a person and nor do I expect perfection in my future spouse either. I’m blogging on purpose about my faith because this is where I stand as a person and as a Christian gal. Christ for me is the standard of love that I am seeking. I’m not going to expect my husband to be “perfect” per say, but I do expect my husband to be a Christ-believer and lover of God that’s for sure! I will not be un-equally yoked to a non-believer and that’s why I am not desperate for marriage when I know and believe that God is able to orchestrate a God-driven and God-purposed marriage for my life.

2 become oneI look at couples who have been in long-lasting relationships and have seen that through the ups and downs that life had to offer them, if Christ wasn’t at the center of their relationship, their relationships would not have lasted as long as they have. My grandparents are a true reflection of that. Marriage is a covenant relationship and God hates divorce so waiting for the right relationship seems worth it to me rather than opting for what simply seems “available” at the time and then ending up in a nasty separation that leads to a bitter divorce and worse yet with children in the mix. That is not God’s design for our lives, so pursue purity, patience and build on your faith and relationship with God before seeking to yoke yourself with simply “anybody” just to escape this season of singleness. You don’t need to opt for a lifetime of pain by pursuing a relationship with haste when you can experience a lifetime filled with joy when receiving God’s promise of love, joy and true fulfillment in a God-driven, purpose driven marital relationship designed His way.

married coupleAlthough I’ve never dated *shock*, I can say that as a single person, it’s been hard to live the single life trying to maintain this sense of purity when there are so many things that tempt us to lead us astray from staying on the right path. However, Jesus demonstrates that it is possible to withstand temptation since He was able to fast and pray in a desert isolated from distractions for 40 days! (Matthew 4:2; Mark 1:13Luke 4:2)… Good God, right!? Well, what about us who are not devoid of distractions like He was but are completely bombarded by them every single day? It sure isn’t easy to maintain your purity when temptation is literally everywhere and I mean everywhere in this sex-saturated world! However, having said that though, it’s also not impossible when you put God on the throne of your heart. Christ literally is the standard of purity that we all ought to seek as an example to live by. Does that mean you disregard your desires for a spouse or intimacy?Hell NO! It just means that you place God first on the throne room of your heart, and then all the things that you desire, God will be the One Who will satisfy the desires of your heart.

You open Your hand And satisfy the desire of every living thing.

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

single chooseSeek God first and all these things shall be added unto you. Waiting on God for whatever He has promised you is a test of perseverance, endurance and also a test of FAITH on the part of the Believer. Don’t look at your current age, social status, relationship status, economic status etc etc as a measuring stick to define your success as a person, because all these things mean nothing to God when He has an idea of how He wants to bring you to what He has promised you. God is intentional and directional with respect to how He guides us towards fulfilling our destinies. You just have to learn to believe that and trust Him at all times. It isn’t easy, but it can be done so don’t lose heart. Be encouraged. 😀

Then Abraham fell on his face and laughed, and said in his heart, “Shall a child be born to a man who is one hundred years old? And shall Sarah, who is ninety years old, bear a child?

Image result for marriageIf Sarah could bear a child that God had promised both Her and Abraham at the age of ninety, then don’t you think God can do much more for you? It’s easy to be discouraged and cynical while waiting… I can surly testify to that… On the other hand, be grateful for what it is that you currently do have. I think the fact that I’ve been through quite so much in my short life-span has made me appreciate each day that I wake up alive to see another day. Having near-death experiences has humbled me and makes me filled with gratitude for what God has done in my life and that’s why I make it a point to exalt Him. I may not have everything that I would like to have right now in my life, but I am grateful for what God has been able to give me. So whether you’re single, married, separated or divorced, your status doesn’t make you who you are, your belief system is what makes you who you are.

Marriage doesn’t guarantee happiness, because God is the only One who can satisfy the void and the desires of your heart. Being single may seem like a pain in the butt right now for those that seek to be married, but it’s far better than opting for and settling for an un-equally yoked relationship with someone that doesn’t share the same belief-system as you do out of sheer desperation. Don’t settle for less than God’s best for your life is what I’m getting at. Also, don’t be bitter nor jealous towards your friends that have found a partner that God has blessed them with. Rather, rejoice and believe that God surely has not overlooked you. Trust in His leading at all times.

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God knows exactly what you need and knows how to direct us to move at the “right timing” towards our destinies and destiny-partners. I firmly believe that God knows how to orchestrate a God-directed relationship to form. I’m not only talking about martial relationships exclusively, I’m also talking about business relationships, ministry relationships, familial relationships, friendship relationships etc etc. God has a way of bringing people together to fulfill a God-driven purpose. God is in the fine details of your life’s plan and you should believe that He still performs miracles to this day. We should not underestimate the miraculousness of God when it comes to forming God-directed relationships. God is intentional and He knows how to lead people to meet each other His way. So if you feel discouraged as a single person still in the “waiting phase” of life, my encouragement to you is to still believe that God has His best interests for you in His heart. You may not understand the delays happening in your life, but God functions much like this African saying: “A blessing delayed is not a blessing denied”. I pray that this post encourages you today. 

I want to post this song by Elevation Worship called Give Me Faith to bless your Spirit today. God bless you Everybody! 😀